Are you losing the battle?
If you want to change your life…DO IT.
I feel at times that people just don’t get this concept.
If you want to lose weight…stop eating what is making you gain weight and increase the calories your body burns.
If you want to fly a plane…take the lessons.
If you want 6 pack abs then eat properly, exercise and burn fat.
Jeepers, it isn’t Rocket Science we are talking about. I mean if someone was intent on building a “Time Traveling Machine” I might coach them on looking at a more tangible goal or path but most people want things that are achievable.
I mean really…they’re ACHIEVABLE.
I’m “The WHY Guy”;
It’s one of my areas of expertise. I get to ask people WHY they aren’t getting rich, finding happiness, losing weight, being full-filled and generally living the life they want to live.
One of the answers that consistently shows up and rears its ugly head is a lack of self-discipline.
When we ask ourselves the “Big question” – “What is it I want to change about my life” and go through my 7 day process there is no doubt about what change needs to be made in our lives.
The crazy part, is that even though we DESIRE that change in our lives, it’s our Self-Discipline or lack thereof that puts up this invisible wall in front of us.
I say invisible because only you can see it? Or is it only you that sees it?
Have you ever been passed over for a promotion?
Have you made huge gains in the gym only to see them fade away due to diet challenges?
Are you a serial dater who just can’t seem to find the right mate?
Maybe the wall isn’t invisible after all?
Maybe the outside world can see our Self-Discipline walls and doesn’t want to make the effort to try and climb over them or break them down to get to us. If the outside world perceives you as an individual with a lack of self-discipline or a lack of resolve to accomplish what you set your mind to, then it only adds to the size of the wall or “Internal Conflict” that you’re personally trying to breakthrough.
I firmly believe that our individual success/failure metrics come from our “Internal Conflicts”.
If you know what you want to do.
If you have the correct plan laid out.
If you have the desire.
If you have the means to make it happen and you still don’t succeed…
It’s your actions that are off… not your planning.
What is it that you have done wrong? Simple answer – You have Internal Conflicts.
Your actions are inhibited by the conflicts raging within you. These conflicts may be so deep inside you that they don’t even consciously register or they may be as simple as your Ego not allowing you to “put yourself out there” and fail?
The challenge going forward it this -
If you don’t IDENTIFY the conflicts within, then you’re going to continue along the same path as you are going now with all of the various degrees of success and failure you have known for years.
There’s no simple way or answer in how to identify these conflicts as each person has different keys to unlocking them. You can start by understanding and accepting who you really are.
One thing I do know though, is you have to really look at
what you want NOW,
what your willing to commit to NOW,
and what is important to you NOW.
We all want to change the world in one way or another. Where things start to derail for us personally, is when we try to take on too much at a time.
When we pile our goals and dreams together and start playing “Jenga” with them. As we all know, that pile of blocks ALWAYS comes crashing down.
It is for this reason that I think “The 365 Effect” is another way of helping people break through their walls and reach a higher levels of self-discipline.
The 365 Effect allows you to focus on your Big Question for 365 days.
365 days isn’t a great deal of time. It really isn’t. All of us over the age of 20 has said at one time or another “Where did that year go”. That’s just it; A year can fly by quicker than you know it.
The 365 Effect allows you to align your life with what it is that you really want to do. The ALIGNMENT of your actions to your commitments is where the real breakthrough starts to happen. If you can free yourself of the inner conflicts that are preventing you from making the progress you want, then the 365’s daily process of being self-disciplined will be life-changing.
“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent” – Calvin Coolidge
Daily persistence, resolved determination combined with simple, actionable and measurable commitments is the key to success in our lives and in making the changes we want to make.
Thanks for taking the time to visit The 365 Effect today. It was a pleasure to write the above post for you.
As always, I welcome any comments and thoughts.
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